Do you remember when I asked Father Christmas to give Z some sex soon because she was making everybody life a misery with her grumpiness?
Well l Z is actually male and not only did Father Christmas answer my plea and give him some sex, but yesterday he announced his engagement!
Yes a whirlwind romance, with a lady he met on the corridor at work TWO WEEKS before Christmas!
With a constant smile on his face and stars in his eyes, he has been a dream to work with these past few weeks. So I don’t know what this lady has, but she should bottle it!
Now I just have to decide which hat?
This got me thinking about “falling in love,” (or lust).
I have never had a whirlwind romance, but I have experienced love at fist sight many years ago,…. eyes met across a crowded room he gave a little smile , my heart began racing, and I got an overwhelming feeling in my stomach that I loved this person and knew him well…. boom! I fell in love with a complete stranger. This was not just fancying someone!. I went away, couldn’t get him out of my mind. Pining to see him again, feeling genuine love for somebody I had never spoken to.
My rational mind told me this was silly, but emotionally I was a wreck. Couldn’t eat, couldn’t sleep, the full works.
Months later, when we were finally introduced (and I thought I had got over it) we had a conversation and he confessed to l me that the feeling had been mutual. we both laughed!….. ……….
Then started a two year passionate uncontrollable affair , which ended badly, when my rational mind I realised that he was not the right person for me and I had to run away to end it. But it had to run it’s course. and it took me a while to get over it.
But was this love…or lust? certainly our affair was passionate and sex is the primary motive of life, to continue the species at all costs. So how do we tell the difference. Did I fool myself into thinking this was love when really it was my hormones at work, overcoming my common sense
I know that Z is on his best behaviour, because love (or lust) is making him that way. He is gentle, he is kind. He smiles a lot, he looks more attractive. There is a glow about him.
His lady does not see the grumpy, awkward, rude person he has been recently. Will she still love him when she does? Will He still love her when he sees her grumpy dark side? (which we all have, lets face it) Can she really take him for better for worse when she has never seen the worst yet ? or does love make us blind?
Still, life is too short. I guess we have to grab happiness when we can. He has come through a messy divorce and life threatening surgery, he is very brave to try again.
Good luck to him, I hope it all works out.
I still don’t know which hat to chose!