Love is kind,..…………..
I wanted to write an up tempo blogpost about how Michael has recovered well and how we are now home etc.. but it has not quite worked out that way.
I said on Friday he was getting grumpy, well that was just the start of it.
On Saturday morning he rang me because ” THEY were talking about him! ” Then he got hostile towardsthe staff. He became awkward and demanding and was having hallucinations.
Turns out he had developed an infection which was making him behave like this
But it didn’t make it any less easy trying to deal with.
Talking to the nurse today, I discovered that , post operative cognitive dysfunction after major surgery, is a know condition and can last for months. Nobody warned us about this and it was very distressing.
Four days later his temperature has come down; the paranoia and hallucinations have stopped, he reports a bit of memory loss, he is still a bit grumpy, but the poor man has tubes everywhere and no control over his bowel. It must be very uncomfortable.
I would like to report that he stoically put up with all the discomfort, but he didn’t. He demanded this, that and the other, then loudly complained about the “service in here” when they couldn’t immediately see to his needs.
I would also like to report that I smiled and patiently put up with his rudeness, but I didn’t. I was embarrassed and exasperated with him. Especially because I was tired because he kept ringing me up early morning and demanding I come to the hospital with iced water.
Overlaying this was the fact that it was upsetting to see him like this because I know that withdrawal from drugs and the infection was talking and not Michael.
The above quote which is a bible passage from Corinthians, kept running through my head.
Love is patient, love is kind, ….love is not quick to anger
Still today he seems to be slightly improved. His temperature is down and he is tolerating fluids and they will try to remove the naso-gastric tube later.
It is going to be a long recovery, in more ways than one!
A year ago today we were still in Estonia.