Quietgirl had always liked Partygirls, outgoing personality and admired the way she went out and made friends and partied, and Partygirl admired Quietgirls self sufficiency and always turned to Quietgirl whenever she had a problem, which was often.
One day Quietgirl had a very SPECIAL party, but Partygirl was ill, she was not in a good place in her life, she behaved badly and the party was spoiled. Quietgirl was hurt and angry, but kept her hurt and anger to herself.
The hurt and anger festered and grew into GRUDGE who became Quietgirls friend instead of Partygirl. So Quietgirl stayed away from Partygirl. When ever Queitgirl would think about Partygirl she would feel angry. The friends were still in touch on facebook but GRUGDE would whisper in Quietgirls ear, always pointing out Partygirls shortcomings. Quietgirl started to see all Partygirls activities in a negative light and missed the good things, she forgot the good times and all the fun they had in the past… and GRUDGE smiled to himself because he was destroying a beautiful friendship , which is what he enjoyed doing most.
After two years,one day, Partygirl rang Qiuetgirl and said “we must get together and catch up” so Quietgirl reluctantly met for lunch, because Quietgirl missed her friend and frankly GRUDGE was beginning to get on her nerves. He was not as much fun as Partygirl. Quietgirl did not like the way GRUDGE made her feel.
Quietgirl realised that Partygirl was better and had moved on with her life to a much better place. completely oblivious to the fact that GRUDGE was Quietgirls new best friend.
..and Quietgirl was so pleased for her friend and realised she still loved her dearly.. and sometimes friends mess up. ( including Quietgirl, sometimes) So Queitgirl told Partygirl about GRUDGE, and Partygirl apologised and they hugged and shed a few tears.
…….and looking on, GRUDGE, realised he had lost and silently slipped away.
….and Quietgirl realised she had lost two precious years of friendship.
MORAL ….don’t let GRUDGE be YOUR new friend!
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Perhaps it wasn't really two "lost" years – it seems that Partygirl and Quietgirl's separation allowed them to grow as individuals and realize how much they mean to each other. I'm glad that Quietgirl sent Grudge packing. Negative emotions never do anyone any good. Thanks for the excellent reminder of the importance of communication. I wonder how the story would have unfolded if Quietgirl had spoken up for herself and told Partygirl that her feelings had been hurt.
Good lesson here – I am very bad at holding "grudges" – trying to get better at letting go of hurts but it is difficult for me – your story has re-enforced my resolve to forgive and forget – AND, as Mary Kay suggests, speak up and tell a friend when you have been offended and/or hurt! Thanks for posting!