WHAT TO WEAR FOR A HINDU WEDDING?
When my dear friend Shobna invited me to her sons wedding. I thought, ” I have a beautiful sari I was given as a gift by another friend a few years ago. Yipee! I have a chance to wear this lovely garment.”
At the time, the gift giver showed me how to drape the sari, but it doesn’t look right .So I go to google and find youtube videos. but several ways to drape a sari so I am even more confused!
Despite my best efforts, on the day it still doesn’t look right so I try and try for about an hour and this is the result.
Oh!but wearing a sari make you feel feminine, makes you feel elegant and covers a LOT of sin. I want to wear one all the time. I LOVE it.
So off we go to Stockport town hall. An elegant Victorian buliding
The place is crowded when we arrive on time. Lots of happy people anticipating a happy event. All dressed up in their finery and greeting friends. and of course ALL the ladies are wearing saris.
Young girls chatting
Eagerly awaiting the start of the ceremony
There is music playing and more and more people arriving, eventually there must be around 700 people.
We wait an hour and a half and still nothing happens. So eventually I ask “what is going on” and am told “we are waiting for the bridegroom.
Suddenly drums play and we hear chanting, some excitement at the back of the hall. It is the groom. Apparently the chanting is the older ladies of each family chanting insults at him, “for fun,” to introduce the families to each other!!
Then the men, joyfully dance, accompanied by the drums, to the stage where the priest is waiting, followed by the groom and his family entourage.
Then followed prayers and rituals for the parents and the groom and a question for the groom “will you look after the bride? he says “yes” and a cheer goes up.
All this time the audience are chatting, walking about, greeting each other and not really taking much notice of what goes on under the canopy on the stage.
The preist appeals for quiet for the entry of the bride. The groom is covered by a shawl so the bride cannot see him.
here comes the bride.
The bride takes her place on the stage, shimmering and resplendent in her cream, red and gold, clothes.Then the marriage ceremony begins. Again more payers and rituals for the bride and a great cheer when SHE answers “yes to the question “will you look after the groom,? and another cheer when the scarf is dropped and she sees the groom for the “first” time. ( even though they have been living together for a while!)
So the ceremony continues, on the stage with rituals and prayers. Including a small coin, which is the dowry. Then to my friends amazement, people start getting up and forming long queues for food.
at last a picture of them happy.
Eventually hunger overcomes us and we also join the queue for food…700 people take a lot of feeding! The food is delicious and the organisation well choreographed, we are ushered along the line and to our seats to eat. Meanwhile the ceremony is still going on on the stage under the canopy attended by close family.
I discuss sari fashion with a woman from London. Apparantly sari goes in fashions like western clothes, so for a function like this you cn choose to wear the latest fashion or a classic look “like yours”.she said! I confessed it had taken me an hour to drape my sari and the girl on the other side said. “so did I, I don’t usually wear a sari. took me ages!” and she complimented me on my work.
Even grandma looks very elegant in this lovely classic sari.
Two very fashionable girls.
The colours are amazing!
….and here I am with the mother of the groom, who looked incredible! You would never know that she had her 50th birthday last week!
Thanks Shobna for a wonderful day.
Love from Bolton
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